Advice on coaching a difficult employee

Is it wrong to get a high out of lying ? Well no, it isn't. It's a perfectly natural condition. There's a frisson to any lie, which is driven by fear and excitement. The fear of being caught out versus the excitement of getting away with it. Everyone is subjected to being told lies as well as telling them. The challenge is to make sure that the lies you are being told will not do you or those around you, irreperable damage; and likewise for the lies you tell others. Sometimes concealing or diluting the truth can be a more palatable medicine than a complete exposure to the full dose. It all depends on the circumstances, although the rule-of-thumb I've always gone by is that sweetening the pill is no bad way of telling it like it is. However, just lying for the sake of it to shift the blame onto others or to avoid taking ownership and responsibility for your actions or lack of them, is not.

I feel that when i lie that im impowered and can do anything that i want.. I know that its wrong when I do it but i kinda get in the moment.Is it wrong how i feel???

This would appear to be a classic case of employee disengagement caused by a poor fit between the position and the employee. Quite simply the chances of an employee being engaged in his or her position and taking ownership are going to be quite dismal if he/she is a poor fit for the job. It's kind of like trying to pound a round peg into a square hole - you are doomed from the start. The troubles you are having highlight the need to be absolutely sure that each employee you hire is a good fit for the job. If this is not done, all other coaching and engagement efforts will be fruitless.

Chris Young The Rainmaker Group